I’ve decided to join up with a linky by Lucy over at Learner Mama, a fellow member of the Irish parenting bloggers group. This is my first EVER linky and one that I couldn’t ignore. I spent the weekend mulling over what I’ve really learnt in motherhood since my 4 year-old boy & girl twins were born and I think I could have easily written a list of 100! Be sure to check out all the other links by clicking on the badge below as there have been some brilliant responses.
- The realisation that I know my children better than anyone. On occasion I have sensed that something wasn’t right with the kids when others said they were fine, and it turned out I was tuned in. This seems very obvious to most I’m sure, but to a first-time mother, it gave me great confidence.
- To take parenting books with a pinch of salt. Parenting books are fine, but they are written for a wide audience. I think especially when it comes to a specific problem, it is much better to talk other parents, friends, family or read some of the great parenting blogs out there.
- That sometimes, when you are feeling desperate, indulging the kids in lots of cartoons and chocolate won’t do any harm.
- To always persevere when in doubt. After a visit to a Doctor with the kids, and if something doesn’t sit well with me, I know it’s best to go back again or push for a second opinion.
- To graciously accept (ignore!) advice from others who may tend to overwhelm with their nuggets of parenting wisdom. I realised it’s easy to smile and move on, and appreciate that (deep down) they are really only trying to help.
- A true appreciation for why mums can look dishevelled. They have not let themselves go! Looking good has just moved down the long list of priorities.
- The importance of treating twins as individuals. It’s so unfair on kids to be compared to each other regarding developmental milestones and their personalities. One is no better in any particular aspect than the other, they are just beautiful little individuals with their own strengths and virtues.
- That my mother was right.
- To stop panicking over everything being equal and treating the twins fairly. At different stages one child may receive more attention than the other for no other reason than they need it. With twins, the mummy guilt can set in early – when two babies are crying and you can’t decide who to pick up first, but I try to remember that whoever needs me will receive attention and in the end it will all even out.
- That nothing could have prepared me for this.
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