Hello! If you’re wondering where I’ve been, I took an unannounced hiatus from the blog which was pretty wonderful. I decided to suit myself and come back when I was in the mood. Not much good for my blog stats, but good for me.
I stopped thinking of my life in blog posts and saying ‘that would make a really good blog post’, much to the relief of my husband. The break did turn out to be a lot longer than I had originally intended, and being away so long did make it difficult to come back. At one stage, I hesitated about returning, but after Christmas I received a few emails from PR companies and read a few articles on the benefits of writing – enough to convince me that it was time to get stuck in again.
So I’m back, but still feeling a bit stuck. I’ve been pondering whether I’m happy to share details of my children’s lives – recently this has made me increasingly uncomfortable. There are so many things I’d love to share, but the kids are now 5 years old and their understanding is growing; they understand that I’ve written stories about them and our experiences. Sharing whimsical stories about twin trolleys is fine, but the meaty, juicy stuff is too personal. I hear other bloggers saying they aren’t comfortable with ‘pimping their family’ and they manage to strike a balance. But I admire those who can happily share everything. Right now I’m struggling to find a balance.
My concern is how this will affect them in the future, and if they’ll turn round in their teenage years and say the stories weren’t mine to tell. I know my blog isn’t overly personal; I don’t have photographs of the kids, but at times I worry about over-sharing and sometimes I wish I hadn’t written that. I’m probably worrying too much and it’s not like I have a huge readership, but still, I want to respect their privacy.
I also find it bizarre on the rare occasion when someone whom I haven’t previously met tells me they’ve been reading my blog. They always say positive things, but it leaves me feeling slightly vulnerable as they know things about me and yet I know nothing about them. When I’m writing, I imagine speaking directly to the bloggers I follow. So when a stranger says they read my blog, it stupidly comes as a surprise. It’s easy to forget at times that this is public and permanent.
I could always write a private blog, but hey, that would be so boring. I could go underground and start an anonymous blog, but that would mean starting from scratch and the early days of a blog are full of tumbleweeds. We all blog for feedback and to converse in a whopping discourse. Currently, my thinking is that my blog will move in a slightly different direction and I’ll do more reviews and link ups, and I’ll keep sharing my published articles. Or perhaps those old teapots up there just need a good Spring clean?
I’m sure I’m not alone in finding it difficult deciding what to share. So, fellow bloggers! If you have any words of wisdom on how you reconcile these conflicting feelings, please divulge! Normally I run to the Irish Parenting Bloggers for advice, but I decided to throw this one out there.
We spent much of Christmas travelling around Ireland visiting our relatives and living out of suitcases. I missed a few blogging opportunities such as looking at a review of 2014 or new year’s resolutions. 2014 had it’s stressful moments and I wasn’t in the mood for a review at all, but here are my new year’s resolutions which are few and go hand in hand.
- to read great books – I’m off to a flying start. Silk for the Feed Dogs by Irish Author and Fashion Designer, Jackie Mallon will be hard to follow. Jackie is a wee dote and I LOVE this book.
- to live in the present (more on this in my next post).